When Christians, "kindly," explain that you're going to hell...?

I do not think most Christan's try and use hell as a ta tic to get believers. You have people that say "how can a loving God send people to hell and eternal place of torment?" Fundamentally they are say that they are more loving than God, more gracious, and more caring than God. If they look in there bibles and believe in the bible they will see that there is such a place. Also that they will that Jesus himself taught more on hell than any other person in the bible com-bind. Also is it not a loving act of God , he is only letting them have what they truly want is separation from him. God extends his loving hands of grace if only except his will, and its a choice called free will, which also loving of him, he could if he wanted to force us to serve him. Just a thought, hope this is some help, i will pray for you and may god bless.